Monthly Man Cave: Because Grown Men Need Friends Too

Tonight is another Monthly Man Cave!  A little tradition I started when I realized something both hilarious and kind of sad: a bunch of grown men can live within 200 feet of each other and still act like they’re on opposite sides of the planet.

We’ll wave when we pull out of the driveway. We’ll nod when we’re taking out the trash at the same time. But actually hang out? Actually meet? Actually know each other’s names?

Yeah… apparently that requires an event.

So I created one.

Why the Man Cave Exists

Here’s the thing that no one really tells you about adulthood: the older we get, the smaller our friend circles tend to become. Careers, kids, mortgages, time… all of it chips away at the free, easy connections we used to have.

And when you move into a new neighborhood, it feels weirdly vulnerable to knock on a door and say, “Hey, I’m new here, want to be friends?”
You might as well hand them a note that says, Please don’t make this awkward.

But connection matters — especially for men who often don’t realize they need community until they don’t have it. And I kept thinking, “There are so many great guys living in Western Oaks, Circle C, Maple Run, Sendera, Legend Oaks… and half of them have no idea they’re surrounded by potential friends.”

So Monthly Man Cave was born.

What Is Monthly Man Cave?

It’s simple:
Once a month, we gather.
No agenda.
No pressure.
No weird team-building exercises involving trust falls.
Just guys hanging out, talking life, laughing, connecting, and remembering that we’re all human beings who occasionally need something beyond work emails and HOA newsletters.

You don’t need to know anyone to show up. You don’t even need to be interesting! I promise someone else will carry the conversation if you’re tired. You just have to live in one of the South Austin neighborhoods we pull from and be willing to show up.

Why It Matters

Every time we meet, I’m reminded just how much we all needed something like this. Within 20 minutes, strangers become acquaintances, acquaintances become almost-friends, and by the end of the night someone is already planning the next backyard BBQ.

It’s community in the simplest form! Men getting out of their houses, meeting their neighbors, and realizing they don’t have to do life isolated behind their garage doors.

So Tonight… We Hang

If you’re in Western Oaks, Circle C, Maple Run, Sendera, or Legend Oaks, Monthly Man Cave is open to you. Bring yourself, bring a drink, bring whatever social skills you have left after a long day — it’s all welcome.

Tonight we build community the old-fashioned way:
Face to face, one joke, one conversation, one new friendship at a time. Message me for the address if you'd like to come!